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Raleigh, North Carolina obituary + family action guide
Carlton Gray Funeral Home Obituaries: Find the Memorial, Confirm the Service and Handle the Next Raleigh Tasks
The funeral provider commonly searched as Carlton Gray Funeral Home is Carlton L. Gray Funeral & Cremation Services at 2810 Kidd Road in Raleigh, North Carolina. Its official memorial system includes obituary pages, service-event information, tribute walls, flower options and family-approved memorial details.
This guide also explains what to do when a death has just occurred, what Carlton asks families to bring to an arrangement conference, what its funeral director can coordinate, how viewing and cremation work, how to obtain Wake County death certificates, where Wake County estates are handled, what happens in a North Carolina medical-examiner case, and where to check Social Security, VA, victim-compensation and funeral-price protections.
Fast answer
Where to Start With Carlton Gray Funeral Home Obituaries
Open the person’s memorial before opening Google Maps. Carlton memorials can send visitors to the funeral home for viewing and to a different church or cemetery for the funeral and burial.
Confirm the provider
“Carlton Gray Funeral Home” Is Carlton L. Gray Funeral & Cremation Services
Official funeral-home information
Carlton L. Gray Funeral & Cremation Services
2810 Kidd Road
Raleigh, NC 27610
Phone: (919) 231-6120
Email shown by Carlton:
carltongrayfunerals@yahoo.com
Use these identity checks
- Official domain: carltonlgrayfuneral.com.
- Current address: 2810 Kidd Road, Raleigh.
- Main phone: (919) 231-6120.
- Individual memorial is hosted on Carlton’s official domain.
- Name, dates and family/local details match the person you need.
Third-party copies can lag behind the funeral home’s memorial. Use the Carlton page when you need the current event schedule, venue, donation preference or tribute tools.
Official obituary search
How to Find a Carlton Gray Funeral Home Obituary
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Open Carlton’s official obituary listings
Start on the Carlton L. Gray website rather than a commercial people-search or obituary-copying site.
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Search or browse the obituary cards
Use the person’s full name first. If the page presents search/filter controls, use those before moving through older listings.
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Simplify the name if necessary
Try the surname alone or remove a middle name, nickname, title or suffix.
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Open the individual memorial
The complete memorial can contain information not visible on the listing card.
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Confirm the person
Compare the dates, Raleigh-area connections and family-approved details before taking action.
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Read each event separately
Viewing, visitation, funeral, memorial, burial and repast can involve different times and locations.
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Save the exact venue you need
Do not assume 2810 Kidd Road is the destination for every event.
Find the person’s listing → open the individual memorial → verify the dates → read the obituary and events → check whether the family requests flowers or another memorial action → save the address for the exact event you plan to attend.
Search troubleshooting
If the Carlton Obituary Is Missing or Incomplete
A funeral home can create the memorial page first and add the full life story or final arrangements after the family completes details.
Memorial-page decoder
What a Carlton Individual Obituary Page Can Tell You
Families may request a charitable donation or another memorial action in lieu of flowers. Follow the specific family’s written wishes even when the memorial platform also displays a flower button.
A copied text message can become outdated. The Carlton memorial gives relatives one place to return to if the time, location or other information is updated.
Service-day routing
The Viewing, Funeral and Burial May Not Be at the Same Address
Official Carlton memorials demonstrate why the event address matters. One 2026 memorial listed a public viewing at Carlton’s Kidd Road location, followed by a funeral at a separate church and a final resting place at a cemetery.
Interpret the memorial correctly
What “Private Memorial,” “Forthcoming” or a Blank Obituary Means
Private Memorial Service
If Carlton identifies the service as private, do not assume the public is invited merely because the memorial page itself is public.
Obituary forthcoming
The funeral home may publish the person’s memorial page before the family finishes the complete obituary or final arrangements.
No obituary description
A page can still be a valid Carlton memorial even when the biography area has not been completed.
Use (919) 231-6120 when an upcoming memorial is described as private or the service details are still incomplete.
Carlton’s immediate guidance
What to Do When a Death Has Just Occurred
Carlton advises contacting emergency personnel before the deceased can be taken into funeral-home care. If the person was under medical care, Carlton also suggests contacting the physician.
The facility generally notifies the proper authorities and can notify the funeral home selected by the family when that information is known.
Carlton’s official guidance tells families they can call the funeral home for help with the next steps.
Carlton’s FAQ says to contact the local medical authorities first, police when appropriate, and then call Carlton as soon as possible so the funeral home can help coordinate the return and reduce duplicated efforts or fees.
Read Within Hours first → choose the situation that matches where the death occurred → then review Within the First Few Days for burial/cremation, clergy, viewing and service decisions → use What to Expect When We Meet before the arrangement conference.
Prepare before the meeting
What Carlton Asks Families to Bring to the Arrangement Conference
Carlton’s official “Where to Begin” guidance publishes a practical list of information used for the death certificate, obituary, service planning, veteran arrangements and other funeral tasks.
Identity and vital statistics
- Full legal name.
- Home address.
- Social Security number.
- Date of birth.
- Place of birth.
Parents and family
- Father’s name.
- Mother’s maiden name.
- Names of survivors.
- Relationship of each survivor.
Life information
- Highest education completed.
- Occupation.
- Information useful for obituary personalization.
Military
- DD-214 or other discharge papers when applicable.
- Military service information useful for benefit/honor requests.
Service and burial
- Burial-location information if applicable.
- Clergy name.
- Clergy phone number.
- Any preplanned wishes.
Financial / personal items
- Insurance policy information if using insurance for funeral expenses.
- A recent photograph.
- Clothing to be used for the service.
Have one relative verify the spelling of the legal name, parents, survivors and other family details. One agreed-upon reference sheet can prevent different relatives from giving Carlton conflicting obituary or certificate information.
Social Security numbers, insurance policies, identification and military documents should go only to Carlton or the verified government/financial organization that needs them.
Public planning document
Carlton’s Public Funeral Arrangement Sheet Shows Exactly Which Vital Details May Be Needed
A publicly accessible funeral arrangement sheet is branded Carlton L. Gray Funeral & Cremation Services / A Choice Cremation and lists the same 2810 Kidd Road address, Carlton’s office number and email.
Fields visible on the sheet include
- Decedent’s name and sex.
- Date of death and age.
- Social Security number.
- Date and place of birth.
- Military service / branch.
- Place and county of death.
- Facility name when applicable.
- Marital status and spouse information.
- Occupation / type of business.
- Residential address.
- Race / Hispanic-origin information.
- Education level.
- Parents’ names.
- Informant name, relationship and phone.
Why this document is useful
It lets families gather facts before sitting down to make arrangements instead of trying to remember names, dates, county information and other details under pressure.
Do not complete or circulate a public copy containing private data unless Carlton instructs you to use it.
That information matters later when ordering North Carolina death certificates. The county where the death occurred can determine which Register of Deeds office holds the local record.
What the funeral home coordinates
What Carlton Says the Funeral Director Can Handle
Immediate funeral logistics
- Removal / transportation of the deceased.
- Preparation according to family wishes.
- Viewing and funeral arrangements.
- Coordination so events proceed as planned.
Documentation
- Assist with legal paperwork.
- Assist with insurance-related paperwork.
- Prepare/file death-certificate information as part of arrangements.
- Draft obituary information.
Family support
- Help plan meaningful personalized services.
- Explain funeral choices.
- Recognize when grief is especially difficult.
- Recommend professional support when appropriate.
For example, the funeral home may already be preparing death-registration information or reporting the death to Social Security. Knowing which steps are underway can prevent duplicated work.
Carlton’s cremation FAQ
Viewing, Autopsy, Organ Donation and Cremation Questions Carlton Answers
Can cremation include a funeral?
Yes. Carlton says cremation describes final disposition and does not prevent a viewing or funeral service before cremation or a memorial afterward.
Can an autopsy prevent viewing?
Carlton’s FAQ states that an autopsy does not prevent an open-casket viewing.
What about organ donation?
Carlton likewise states that organ donation does not automatically prevent an open-casket viewing.
How long does cremation take?
Carlton says the cremation process commonly takes about 3–5 hours, varying with the individual and container used.
How is identity tracked?
Carlton describes strict paperwork/checklist procedures and a metal disk with a unique identification number that accompanies the deceased through the cremation process.
Open or closed casket?
Carlton describes viewing/visitation as potentially involving either an open or closed casket, depending on arrangements and circumstances.
Families may still need to decide on an urn, cemetery/columbarium placement, burial or lawful scattering. Check the rules for any public or private property before scattering.
Use the questions about viewing, cremation, autopsy / organ donation and identification to create a list of family questions → write down your preferred service type → call Carlton when you need case-specific confirmation.
Current price strategy
How to Get Carlton’s Current Funeral Prices Without Relying on an Old Survey
Carlton’s own “Where to Begin” page says the staff will first provide a General Price List when meeting with a family about arrangements. That is more useful for a current 2026 decision than copying old funeral-price surveys into an obituary article.
Micro-step: request Carlton’s current pricing
- Call (919) 231-6120.
- State the arrangement you want priced: viewing, traditional funeral, immediate burial, direct cremation, memorial or another option.
- Ask for the price of individual goods/services.
- Ask which costs are paid to outside providers.
- Ask about death certificates, cemetery, crematory, transportation and obituary charges separately.
- At the arrangement meeting, keep the General Price List Carlton provides.
- Review the written statement before approving final arrangements.
Read the sections covering telephone price information, General Price List, casket prices and outer burial container prices → then use those rights while comparing Carlton’s current quote.
Borrowing decision
Carlton’s Website Mentions Funeral Financing—Compare the Total Cost Before Borrowing
Carlton’s “Where to Begin” page displays a financing option through OneMain Financial. Financing may help with timing, but a loan is different from funeral assistance, insurance or a benefit program.
Before borrowing, determine the current itemized funeral cost, what cash/insurance/benefits are available and the total repayment amount under the offered loan terms.
North Carolina consumer protection
If a Funeral Was Prepaid, Locate the Preneed Contract Before Paying Again
North Carolina consumers can use the North Carolina Board of Funeral Service’s consumer portal for funeral-business/license lookup, copies of preneed contracts, preneed recovery claims and complaints.
License lookup
Verify a funeral establishment or licensee using the Board’s own search.
Preneed contract copy
Use the consumer process when the family cannot locate the existing contract.
Recovery claim
The portal includes a Preneed Recovery Fund claim process for qualifying losses.
Complaint
The Board provides a consumer complaint route for funeral businesses/professionals.
That distinction is also reflected in this article’s structured data: it is marked as an Organization, not a GovernmentOrganization.
Choose Look Up a License, Request Copy of Preneed Contract, File Preneed Recovery Claim or Complaint → follow that specific form/lookup → save a copy of any submission or retrieved contract.
Wake County vital records
How to Order a Wake County Death Certificate
Wake County Register of Deeds
Wake County Justice Center
300 S. Salisbury St., Suite 1700
Raleigh, NC 27601
Birth/death certificate questions:
(919) 856-5460
Business hours:
Monday-Friday
8:30 a.m.-5:00 p.m.
Who can obtain a certified NC record?
Wake’s online application lists qualifying requestors including the person named on an applicable record, spouse, sibling, child/step-child, parent/step-parent, grandparent, grandchild, authorized agent, attorney or another legal representative, with proof required where applicable.
The Wake County process lists certified birth, marriage and death certificates at $10 each. Online convenience/payment charges can be added to the certificate price, so review the total shown by the ordering system before paying.
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Confirm the death occurred in Wake County
For the county route, North Carolina directs people to the Register of Deeds in the county where the vital event occurred.
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Open Wake County’s online request
Use the Wake Register of Deeds application rather than an unrelated records seller.
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Choose the death-certificate service
Enter the deceased person’s requested identifying information accurately.
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Confirm your eligibility/relationship
Provide proof of authority when the ordering category requires it.
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Review the total charge
Separate the certificate price from any online convenience, card or delivery cost.
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Save the receipt and order number
Wake’s order tracker uses the order number and email address; keep both until the request is complete.
Death certificates: Wake County Justice Center, 300 S. Salisbury St., Suite 1700.
Estates: Wake County Courthouse, 316 Fayetteville St. Mall.
These are different tasks and different destinations.
Select the vital-record request → choose the death-certificate option → enter the deceased person’s information → identify your relationship/authority → review all charges → submit → save the receipt/order number → use the order tracker from your confirmation email if needed.
State-level record route
When to Use North Carolina Vital Records Instead of Wake County
North Carolina Vital Records maintains statewide death certificates from 1930 to the present. The state’s current guidance says birth, death and marriage certificates may also be obtained from the Register of Deeds in the county where the event occurred.
Use the Wake County route when
- The death occurred in Wake County.
- The Wake County process fits your timing.
- You want a county-issued certified copy.
Use the state route when
- You need the statewide ordering service.
- You need a correction or amendment route.
- The county route is not suitable.
- You need current state processing information.
If a North Carolina resident died in a different county from where they lived, the state’s guidance says the county where the death occurred is the correct Register of Deeds for the local county route.
Current state-order details
- State search fee including one certificate when found: $24.
- Additional copies of the same certificate: $15 each.
- Remote/VitalChek processing fees can apply.
- In-person expedited service is appointment-only and has an additional expedite fee.
- Before ordering, NC Vital Records recommends checking current processing dates.
Choose Order a Certificate → answer the preliminary routing questions → review current processing dates → provide the name, date and place of death plus qualifying relationship for a certified copy → use Change a Record instead when the certificate needs correction/amendment.
Wake County probate / estate administration
Where to Start an Estate in Wake County
Wake County Courthouse
316 Fayetteville St. Mall
Raleigh, NC 27601
Main: (919) 792-4000
Estates direct: (919) 792-4450
Hours:
Monday-Friday
8:30 a.m.-5:00 p.m.
Before calling Estates
- Locate the original will if one exists.
- Obtain a certified death certificate.
- Make a preliminary list of assets.
- Identify heirs/devisees as best you can.
- Determine whether the deceased was domiciled in Wake County.
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Locate the will
Do not rely only on a photocopy when the original is available.
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Get a certified death certificate
This is commonly required when formally beginning estate administration.
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Identify estate assets
Make a preliminary list without assuming you have authority to withdraw or transfer property yet.
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Determine whether a simplified process applies
North Carolina has procedures for some smaller or simpler estates; not every death requires full administration.
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Call Wake Estates
Use (919) 792-4450 when you need Wake-specific procedural direction before filing.
NC Courts states that Wake civil matters are handled at the Wake County Courthouse, 316 Fayetteville St. Mall. Wake’s contact directory provides the separate Estates number of (919) 792-4450.
Read Filing → determine the correct county → review probate vs non-probate property → check whether a small-estate/simplified procedure applies → identify required forms → then use Wake’s Estates line when you need county-specific procedural help.
North Carolina OCME cases
If the Medical Examiner Is Involved, Carlton and OCME Handle Different Parts of the Process
You still select a funeral provider
North Carolina’s OCME says the funeral home or cremation provider selected by the next of kin coordinates release/transport after the examination.
OCME does not provide family viewing
The current FAQ says viewing should be arranged with the funeral home after release.
Cause/manner may initially say “pending”
Additional investigation or testing can delay final cause/manner information.
A pending certificate can still have uses
OCME notes that a pending death certificate can provide legal proof of passing for some tasks that do not require the final cause/manner.
Tell Carlton that the case is under medical-examiner jurisdiction. The selected funeral provider works with the medical-examiner system on release/transport.
Read the sections about viewing, pending death certificates and next steps → ask Carlton to coordinate funeral-home release → use the Register of Deeds or NC Vital Records for certificate copies rather than trying to buy them from OCME.
Military funeral benefits
Veteran Families: Why Carlton Asks for the DD-214
Carlton’s arrangement checklist specifically asks families to bring a Veteran’s discharge papers when applicable. Those records can help establish service when requesting military or VA burial benefits.
Funeral honors
Tell Carlton early that the deceased was a Veteran so military-honor coordination can be discussed before the service schedule is finalized.
Burial allowance
Eligible claimants may qualify for federal burial, plot/interment or transportation benefits depending on the Veteran’s circumstances.
National cemetery / memorial items
VA has separate eligibility processes for national-cemetery burial, burial flags, headstones, markers and related memorial benefits.
VA’s current Application for Burial Benefits is VA Form 21P-530EZ. For some non-service-connected claims, VA requires filing within two years after burial or cremation, so check the current eligibility/deadline section rather than relying on an old funeral-home handout.
Useful records to retain
- Death certificate.
- DD-214 or service documentation when required.
- Itemized Carlton statement.
- Paid funeral/cemetery receipts.
- Transportation receipts when applicable.
Choose the benefit you need → review eligibility → gather discharge/death/expense documents → use the current online application or form specified by VA → save the submitted claim confirmation and copies of supporting receipts.
North Carolina financial assistance
If the Death Resulted From a Violent Crime, North Carolina May Help With Funeral Expenses
North Carolina’s Victim Compensation Program can help eligible families of homicide victims with qualifying burial and funeral expenses. The application process is free and confidential.
Current funeral-expense maximum
NC DPS currently lists up to $10,000 for burial and funeral expenses for qualifying homicide victims.
The program is a payer of last resort, so other available insurance or payment sources may need to be addressed first.
Funeral claim documentation
- Death certificate.
- Itemized funeral bill.
- Law-enforcement report.
- Other documentation requested during review.
Current online application steps
- Open the North Carolina Victim Compensation Program.
- Select Start an Application.
- Create/log into the portal account.
- Complete the profile and claim.
- Attach the death certificate, itemized funeral bill and law-enforcement documentation.
- Sign and submit the application.
- Keep the confirmation and respond to any document requests.
Program help: (800) 826-6200
The program applies to qualifying victims of violent crime and has eligibility, reporting and documentation rules. Check those requirements before counting on reimbursement.
Check Am I eligible? → review accepted expenses → gather the death certificate, itemized Carlton bill and law-enforcement report → select Start an Application → save the confirmation after submission.
Who handles what?
Raleigh After-Death Task Map
Not every family needs every step. This visual separates funeral-home work from the county, court and federal tasks that can follow.
The person handling arrangements at Carlton is not automatically the court-appointed estate representative. Those roles can be held by different people.
Current Raleigh location
Carlton L. Gray Funeral & Cremation Services Address, Phone and Map
Carlton L. Gray Funeral & Cremation Services
2810 Kidd Road
Raleigh, NC 27610
United States
Phone: (919) 231-6120
When to navigate here
Use 2810 Kidd Road when meeting Carlton staff, attending a viewing or service specifically scheduled at Carlton, or otherwise visiting the funeral home.
For an obituary event at a church or cemetery, use the address inside that event instead.
Actionable source directory
Official Carlton, Wake County, North Carolina and Federal Resources
Official Obituaries
Use when: finding an individual memorial or service information.
Where to Begin
Use when: a death has occurred or you are preparing for the arrangement meeting.
Funeral FAQs
Use when: asking about out-of-town deaths, viewing, cremation, autopsy or personalization.
Register of Deeds
Use when: ordering a certified Wake County death certificate.
NC Vital Records
Use when: a state-issued record, correction or statewide route is needed.
Wake County Courthouse
Use when: confirming the civil courthouse location/hours.
Wake Contact Directory
Use when: you need the direct Estates phone instead of the main courthouse line.
Medical Examiner FAQ
Use when: a death is under medical-examiner jurisdiction.
What to Do When Someone Dies
Use when: checking death reporting and survivor benefits.
Burial & Memorial Benefits
Use when: the deceased was a Veteran.
Victim Compensation
Use when: a death resulted from qualifying violent crime in North Carolina.
FTC Funeral Rule
Use when: comparing funeral goods/services and current prices.
NC Board Consumer Portal
Use when: verifying a license or handling a preneed-contract issue.
Direct answers
15 FAQs About Carlton Gray Funeral Home Obituaries
1. What is the official name of Carlton Gray Funeral Home?
The official business name is Carlton L. Gray Funeral & Cremation Services. It is located at 2810 Kidd Road in Raleigh, North Carolina.
2. Where can I find official Carlton Gray obituaries?
Use the obituary listings on Carlton’s official website at carltonlgrayfuneral.com. Open the individual memorial for the complete obituary, event information and tribute options.
3. What is Carlton L. Gray Funeral Home’s phone number?
The current main telephone number is (919) 231-6120.
4. Are all Carlton funerals held at 2810 Kidd Road?
No. A viewing may be at Carlton while the funeral is at a church and burial is at a separate cemetery. Use the address attached to the specific event in the person’s memorial.
5. What should I do if the Carlton obituary is not complete yet?
Some memorial pages may be created before the full obituary or final arrangements are available. Recheck the same Carlton memorial later or call the funeral home when the service is approaching.
6. What should I bring to a Carlton arrangement conference?
Carlton lists the deceased person’s full legal name, address, Social Security number, birth information, parents’ names, DD-214 when applicable, education, occupation, burial information, clergy contact, survivor information, relevant insurance information, a recent photograph and service clothing.
7. Can Carlton help write the obituary?
Yes. Carlton’s official “Where to Begin” guidance lists drafting an obituary among tasks that may be handled during the funeral-arrangement process.
8. Can a family still have a viewing or funeral if choosing cremation?
Yes. Carlton’s FAQ says families can arrange viewing and funeral services with cremation, either before cremation or a memorial service afterward.
9. Does an autopsy or organ donation prevent an open-casket viewing?
Carlton’s FAQ says an autopsy or organ donation does not automatically prevent an open-casket viewing. Specific circumstances should still be discussed with the funeral director.
10. How long does Carlton say cremation usually takes?
Carlton’s FAQ says the cremation process usually takes approximately 3–5 hours, depending on the individual and container used.
11. How do I get current Carlton funeral prices?
Call Carlton and request current itemized prices. Carlton’s official planning page says a General Price List is provided when meeting with staff about arrangements, and federal Funeral Rule protections also apply.
12. How much is a Wake County certified death certificate?
Wake County lists certified birth, marriage and death certificates at $10 each. Online convenience, payment or delivery charges may be added depending on the order method.
13. Where are estates handled in Wake County?
Wake County civil matters are handled at the Wake County Courthouse, 316 Fayetteville St. Mall in Raleigh. The current direct Estates telephone number is (919) 792-4450.
14. Does the funeral home usually report a death to Social Security?
Social Security says funeral homes generally report deaths, so families typically do not need to separately report the death. Survivors should still check whether they qualify for survivor benefits or the lump-sum death payment.
15. Can North Carolina help with funeral expenses after a homicide?
Potentially. North Carolina’s Victim Compensation Program currently lists up to $10,000 in burial and funeral expenses for qualifying homicide victims, subject to eligibility and documentation requirements.
Federal survivor tasks
Social Security After a Death: Reporting and Survivor Benefits
Funeral homes generally report deaths
SSA currently says families typically do not need to separately report a death when the funeral home sends the information.
Give Carlton the correct SSN
Accurate Social Security information helps avoid reporting problems.
Survivor benefits
Eligible spouses, divorced spouses, children and dependent parents may qualify based on the deceased worker’s record.
$255 lump-sum death payment
A qualifying spouse or, in some circumstances, qualifying children may be eligible.
If SSA still needs a death report
SSA says to call and provide the deceased person’s name, Social Security number, date of birth and date of death.
SSA: 1-800-772-1213
SSA’s current materials encourage eligible survivors to start the benefit process promptly even when every supporting document has not yet been gathered.
Review How to report a death → check the lump-sum death payment → open Survivor benefits to identify eligible family members → call 1-800-772-1213 when you need help or need to report a death Carlton did not report.